Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Recurring Plane Crash Dreams


This link is about the closest I could find to show you how my dreams look and feel to me - They feel real to me like this... - ONLY THE BEGINNING PART AS IT IS AN EDITED VIDEO CLIP - IT TURNS OUT FINE IN THE END..Click on link below to view or cut and paste...

http://youtu.be/CGBLVp_7yUE

I have these recurring dreams of planes crashing. I’m not joking, these dreams are so so real but don’t happen that often, but often enough to disturb me, and cause me to do a quick search on the internet about it.

I am never inside the plane, always on the ground watching. And the plane always tries to pull out of the crash using some strange physics that is only available in dreams, but then ends up ploughing into the earth and basically disintegrating. I am never aware of knowing any of the passengers, just that there are passengers.

I always realize that the plane is going to crash before it actually does, and all I do is stand there and watch it (what more could anyone do in that circumstance?). It usually crashes quite close to me, no more than a few hundred feet away. Sometimes it crashes into a building and other times into the ground (my next-door-neighbour’s yard in another dream).

This morning’s dream I was with my girlfriend Nicole, we were outside, and I was talking to her husband on the phone then he put Nicole’s mum on the phone and she was yelling at me as I left Kobis birthday cards on her table back in Newcastle with money in them, which in my head was really the table at 20 High Street Yamba where I use to live. And I turned around and this plane was a BIG LONG plane blue and white, I was showing Nic, as we live near the airport ( in my dream and in real life) pointing to it and then it went over us and wobbled really badly, they always seem to wobble in my dreams and then it turned around towards us and back away and BANG!! It crashed down on to a main highway and in the distance I could see another small plane crash.... I always cower down and cover my head.

In other dreams, the plane was about to crash down onto me, but somehow put on the “brakes” and slowed to a stop right above my head, then sort of swung like a pendulum for a moment before being shot off to the side, but not at a high enough angle to pull out of the crash. The plane crashed into a building just past the building I was standing near.

In the neighbor’s yard dream, ( it was the street behind me) I saw the plane up in the sky flying normal when all of a sudden, the plane did a barrell roll to try and turn around I was thinking about whether or not the passengers were rolling around in the plane, when the plane suddenly made an abrupt u-turn and began flying toward my direction. I think at this point I realized that for the plane to do a barrell roll was not normal and meant the plane was in trouble. The plane then proceeded to dramatically lose altitude as it flew, and crashed into my neighbor’s yard. There was lots of schrapnel after that, and I put my arms over myself for protection, but was never hit by anything anyway.

I Goggled this and found an answer below:

Dreaming of Plane Crashes may represent a necessary change, usually in your thinking that allows you to enter another 'plane' of existence--the current 'plane' must crash to allow new freedom of existence. Should this be the case, remember that what always survives the crash is the black box--that part of you that keeps your memories, your dreams, and your soul alive!

A final note about plane crash dreams. Planes involve soaring, of reaching unbelievable heights and travelling at amazing speed. Your dream may simply be telling you that you have the ability to accomplish more than you ever thought humanly possible but the fear of taking flight and going into a place you've never been is overwhelming you. If this is the case, I encourage you to step on the plane, get in that seat, and prepare for the adventure ahead...even if you need a friend to help you do it!

Mmmm, Something for me to ponder about I think!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

A tribute to my Uncle Kelvin - with a Poem at the end

My Uncle Kelvin was a character; he had many a personalities that I remember growing up. Here are some of the fondest memories I have of my Uncle:

I was around 7 or 8 and my dad lifted me up onto our dining room table at our house at Roberts Creek Brushgrove.. As mum wanted to do my hair. Our Christmas tree was up all sparkly and we were on our way to Calliope to celebrate Christmas with our Aunty Mary, Uncle Kelvin and my three cousins, Leanne, Lisa and Susan. My god I can still feel the excitement I had right now, I remember my legs swinging under the table and me singing’ Goodie, Goodie Gum Drops, Goodie Goodie

Gum Drops. I was going to play and have fun with my cousins and I was going to play with Bracken the dog. Aunty Mary would pamper me and give me loads of hugs and kisses, and then there was Uncle Kelvin, who I loved getting a big hug from but at the same time he scared me. He was a big man compared to my dad, a deep strong voice and whenever he used it I would get scared, but never tell anyone or show it, but then he would go about whatever he was doing and I would smile and carry on again.

I remember mostly the word SUUUSSSANNNNNNNN!!!! Coming from him. It was just Uncle Kelvin. I use to watch him take photos and be in awe of this and wished I was just like him taking the photos. It was something that really grabbed me from an early age. I remember being so proud that he would take photos for the Grafton Daily Examiner and his name would be attached, and while I was at St Marys College, I would make a point to say “That’s my Uncle who took those”! I was also proud to say that “My Uncle worked and the Grafton Brewery and was management”.

Christmas time was always my favourite time, with everyone laughing and carrying on, yelling over top of one another, then Uncle Kelvin would put on his Country and Western Music. That’s right my Christmas were full of Country and Western Music, not Frosty the Snow man or jingle bells. This I loved! I love different.

I’d ask him questions and he would happily answer them but I knew when he was finished – a short fuse I think and I always had that bit of “I’m a little scared” still inside of me as I grew older.

It was Uncle Kelvin who got me into loving taking photographs which I thank him for this today. What you can capture in one second, you can hold onto a lifetime...

I was also bought up with stuffed animals peering out at me from the walls! Deer’s were my favourites. I would sneak a pat looking very wearily as I was waiting for Uncle Kelvin to jump and yell “Don’t you bloody well touch that” and make me fall to the ground trembling. But I got away with it.

Uncle Kelvin was a strong man, and he has not gone too far, his spirit is here with us every day, it’s just the body that dies, not his spirit.

Look into your heart and be honest about all the people in your past who have harmed you in any way. Where there is pain, practice pardon. Forgiveness is the very foundation of spiritual awakening. - Dr. Wayne Dyer

My Poem

My dear Uncle Kelvin can't you see?
I'm not the little niece you remember me to be
I am now 40 years of age with a family of my own
But just always remember that you will never be alone

My Uncle Kelvin he was loud, and by god was he proud
He also had a strong personality
Which really stood out in a crowd

He also had his soft spots too
I witnessed with his children
They hugged and kissed and played with him
And he also loved his grandchildren

I will always remember our arguments
Our feuds, even our different points of views
There is one thing that I know will never change
Is the love I had for you

I hope that you can hear me
And even if you can't
I want you to know
You're always in my heart.

God bless,goodnight and sweet dreams Uncle Kelvin
Love your neice Jessica

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Dad - My Angel Experience

Trying to write an experience on FB is not so easy as it must be said in 420 words – So I will put it into my blog in more detail.

I was driving to work yesterday ( Monday June 13th) it was raining and miserable and being a public holiday most people were home with their loved ones or families and I got thinking of my dad. It was exactly just as I drove past the Coolangatta airport. I think of dad now and then and as you do, I get all choked up and a little upset but it only ever last for around 30 seconds and then I smile and move on. Well I got to the hospital, and into work I went.

There was only 3 of us working instead of 13 & more due to the public holiday and its like this on the weekends too. So I was put on wash up out the back as I am not a senior yet and unable to operate the big sterilisation machines. But being out the back on your own has its advantages, I get to put my own music station on – triple J, turn it up and dance and sing away while working. It gets my spirit going!

There was a knock at the door from someone out in the corridor, and it opened. A ladies head poked in and said in an accent... “Do you have any Scourers?” I couldn’t quite hear her so I moved closer and she repeated herself... “Of course I do, here have a hand full”. She then proceeded to speak to me about her work and straight away I knew she was Polish, it was like listening to my Grandma, Nanny Choo dads mum, and listening to dad all over again. Oh boy I was tearing up slightly listening to her but I took a deep breath and I smiled so BIG my cheeks were hurting.

I asked her “You are Polish?” she said yes. I told her my dad was from Bielsko Biala http://www.bielsko.biala.pl/eng

but died 5 years ago at 80. She told me she was from this town and then we talked for ages about how I travelled and stayed in Bielkso Biala and had a fantastic experience. She knew straight away and asked “How did you cope with no one speaking English?” I told her I would go to the Hotel President http://www.hotelprezydent.pl/ to speak to the one lady at the desk who spoke English. Everything during the day was by sign language and pointing.

She starting talking about cooking and the food dad use to make or eat like Bigos, Pierogi, Kapusniak, Klopsik, Kluski, Ogorki kiszone. This blew me away! I was in heaven and as you know me, I started talking hundred miles an hour.

She then told me of a little place in Bay street, tweed that sells some ingredients to this food and as a lot of the polish salamis too! And its on my way to work? I will be going there defiantly.

I didn’t want her to go and just listening to her voice gave me a great comfort.  But I must soldier on in life and I just thank my Angels and Dad for coming and saying HI! It’s so great to know he is around me and this is only one of 4 experiences I have had since dad died.

Angel of God, my guardian dear,
To whom God's love commits me here,
Ever this day be at my side,
To light and guard, to rule and guide.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Sucker Punched by a Potato Chip?

I came across this article and found it interested and would like to share it with you......

Everyday foods that can cause you pain.

How your diet can ease your aches.

Most of the pain people suffer from, both in the U.S. and in other parts of the world, involves the complex system of nerves (neuro), muscles and tendons (musculo), and bones, joints, and cartilage (skeletal). MSK [musculoskeletal] pain, which covers a wide range of symptoms and causes, affect one in four adults worldwide and is the most common source of serious, long-term pain and physical disability. Chronic pain, often a result of unresolved MSK pain, is the cause of as many as 60 percent of people requiring early retirement or long-term sick leave.

Research has shown that the everyday decisions you make regarding the kind and amount of food you consume have a significant impact on your health. Food provides more than energy for your body to function. It also contains vital nutrients, including vitamins and minerals that are critical for the well-being of your bones, and substances such as antioxidants and phytonutrients that can slow down the inflammation that plays a key role in the development of MSK pain.

The most recent scientific research has also found that nutrition has a direct impact on inflammation, which is one of the key components of chronic pain, osteoarthritis, and heart disease. Perhaps the most radical medical insight to come out of all the research into the relationship between food and its impact on the body is the role that certain foods play in initiating inflammation. Food and food additives that trigger inflammation are labeled as “pro-inflammatory” because they cause the body’s natural defense system to respond in much the same way it would to a wound or other injury. For example, trans fats—a kind of unsaturated fat created by using hydrogenated oils—are known to increase the risk of a number of degenerative chronic ailments, including heart disease, diabetes, and stroke, by raising levels of “bad” LDL cholesterol and lowering levels of “good” HDL cholesterol. (LDL cholesterol transports cholesterol throughout your body and, at higher levels, accumulates in artery walls and makes them hard and narrow. HDL collects excess cholesterol and carries it to your liver.)

Food manufacturers have known for a while now about the dangers caused by trans fats, but because trans fats enhance the taste of certain foods, as well as add calories and artificially slow spoilage, they continue to be used. This all adds up to higher profits for food companies, but the real costs of trans fats are shifted to consumers. Health authorities worldwide agree that we should reduce all consumption of trans fats to trace amounts.

Trans fats along with the preservative sodium nitrite, the flavor enhancer monosodium glutamate, sugar in its many forms (dextrose, sucrose, lactose, high fructose corn syrup), artificial chemical sweeteners, artificial colors, homogenized fats, and other toxic, disease-promoting ingredients, can still be found in abundance in the American food supply, all approved by the FDA.

These foods and additives promote inflammation by generating free radicals—atoms, molecules, or ions that lack an electron in their outer shell and seek to bond with other atoms or molecules to stabilize themselves. Once formed, these highly reactive radicals can start a chain reaction, like dominoes, forcing other molecules to become unstable in turn. They build up over time and cause cartilage to lose its ability to bounce back, artery walls to lose their ability to resist plaque, and airways to lose their tendency to remain open. The body reacts to inflammation in the arterial walls in a similar way to how it reacts to cuts and other external injuries.

This can result in the formation of scar tissue that attracts plaque “essential” because our body cannot produce them, yet they are present in every living cell in the body and are critical for normal functioning of the body. The omega-3 EFAs that are found in foods such as cold-water fish (salmon, mackerel, sardines, herring, bass, swordfish, and tuna) and flax seeds, walnuts, and dark green leafy vegetables (including kale, spinach, chard, broccoli, and dark green lettuce) have been shown to discourage the production of inflammatory chemicals that harm the joints and other parts of the body. These omega-3 EFAs appear to turn off inflammatory reactions when the body no longer needs them, and so to keep the inflammation process from running amok. They also contribute to the creation of a variety of powerful anti-inflammatory substances.

By contrast, omega-6 EFAs, which are found in red meat and other animal products and in many vegetable oils used in cooking and baking, promote inflammation. Our diet is overloaded with omega-6 foods, including the omnipresent vegetable oils (corn, sunflower, safflower, peanut) not only used to fry foods and make potato and corn chips, but also added to most processed foods, commercial salad dressings, microwavable food, frozen food, and many brand-name breakfast bars and candy bars.

Until about a hundred years ago, our ancestors lived well on a diet in which omega-6 and omega-3 fatty acids were in balance.

The ideal ratio of omega-6 to omega-3 fats is roughly 2:1, which has been our traditional diet for many thousands of years. Today, the ratio averages more than 20:1, which is dangerous to health. If you eat fast food more than four times per week, chances are your ratio is closer to 40:1. A study in the January 2002 American Journal of Clinical Nutrition determined that the omega-6 EFAs increased inflammation in heart cells.1 Because omega-3 and omega-6 interact with each other, it’s important to maintain the proper balance between them that is crucial for good health.


References
1.Michal Toborek, Yong Woo Lee, Rosario Garrido, Simone Kaiser, and Bernhard Hennig. “Unsaturated fatty acids selectively induce an inflammatory environment in human endothelial cells.” American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 75, No. 1 (January 2002): 119-125.

Excerpted from Stop Pain by Vijay Vad, M.D. Copyright © 2010 (Hay House).

Vijay Vad, M.D., is a sports-medicine specialist at the Hospital for Special Surgery and a professor at Weill Medical College of Cornell University. He is the author of Back Rx and Arthritis Rx. In 2007, he created the Vad Foundation, dedicated to two causes: supporting medical research into back pain and arthritis, and funding education for disadvantaged girls worldwide. He co-founded The Inflasoothe Group in 2008. Dr. Vad lives in New York City with his family.

Friday, June 10, 2011

Unconditional Love – A Simple Experiment by DR. WAYNE W. DYER

I would love to share this with you all.... Dr Wayne Dyer is one of my favourite and I own alot of this books.... Enjoy....



There is no greater power in heaven or on earth than pure, unconditional love. The nature of the God force, the unseen intelligence in all things, which causes the material world and is the center of both the spiritual and physical plane, is best described as pure, unconditional love. This God force is the oversoul to which we are always connected because we are localized extensions of that force.

I suggest you embark on an experiment in which you practice only unconditional love for several days. Vow to yourself that you will only allow unconditional loving thoughts to emanate from your consciousness. Make an intense proclamation to live unconditional love. During this time, refuse to have judgmental or critical thoughts. In your quiet time, think only peace and love. In all of your relationships, think and act in only loving ways. Extend loving thoughts and energy wherever and whenever you encounter anyone or anything. Become unconditional love for this period of time.

By pouring love into your immediate environment and practicing gentleness in all of your thoughts, words, and actions, your immediate circle of friends will begin responding in a whole new way. This act becomes expansive very quickly and you can radiate this love to your whole community. You become detached and loving toward all. You are not loving the hostile acts of others, but you are loving the spirit that is blocked in those who are harmful and unloving. When you can live this way and reject all thoughts and actions that are not of an unconditionally loving nature, you will experience the essence of your spirit and discover how to overcome limitations in your life.

What can you expect as you practice a few days of being total unconditional love? If all of your meditations are devoted to love, and if you pour love into every single situation and every single person you meet, and beyond that to everyone on the planet and to the infinity of the universe, you will feel yourself becoming a different person. You will sleep more soundly. You will feel at peace virtually all of the time. Your relationships will be more deeply spiritual. You will begin recognizing the “coincidences” of your life with greater regularity. Your thought forms of unconditional love will begin to produce what you desire without your even being aware of how it is happening. Your dreams will be more intense, and the vision of your purpose will become clearer.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

I Challenge you to go on a 24 hour Positive Spree


So from now on... for 24 hours of reading this, Go on a 24 hour Positive Spree, no negativity, catch yourself before you speak.

Positive 24 Hour High Five!

We have all been bought up and conditioned to a certain style and way of life.

Instead of striving to see yourself as superior to others, why don’t you choose a self image of a valley. From this grounded and receptive position be willing to HEAR and RECEIVE.

My how I use to be so self destructive on myself when things did not go my way, but I’ve learnt to seek a calm inner response to the circumstances in my life.

Everyone I know or who I have meet out there in the world who knew me – actually knew me as loud and boisterous, so out there doing my own thing, not following any sheep, dressing up in weird stuff going out at night, laughing loud and not having any responsibilities. I’m still loud! As most of you still know, but so much less negative.

You know the old saying “Knowledge is Power” and if you find it works for you that’s fantastic, if it doesn’t why is there a need for your ‘ego’ to say so... You’ll end up with stomach ulcers, irritated, stressed, and aching bones, feel miserable, catch colds regularly and complain you don’t feel well.

If you really listen to what comes out of your mouth, try to see how positive it really is. Really LISTEN to what comes out of your mouth and try to catch yourself doing this, try to catch all the aches and pains the sickness you feel in the bottom of your tummy, the colds and then throw them over your shoulder or into a fire and say “Ta Ta, goodbye forever”!
Life is a breeze when ego is not in charge.... I’m in charge of my inner world, not ego.

Sunday, June 5, 2011

FIND THREE GREAT FRIENDS


FIND THREE GREAT FRIENDS
Cultivating great friendships is one of the surest ways to find more happiness and joy in your life. Recent studies show that those with a wide circle of friends and family live longer, laugh more, and worry less. But friendships, like all other good things in life, take time, energy, and commitment. Having said this, few things will offer greater rewards. As one philosopher wrote many centuries ago, there is nothing in the world more valuable than friendship. Thos who banish it from their lives remove as it were the sun from the earth, because of all of nature’s gifts it is the most beautiful and the most pleasing”.

As I grew up, my father often said that the person with three great friends is a rich person indeed. I have never forgotten this advice and encourage you to take it to heart as well. To build deeper friendships, you must be willing to move out of your comfort zone, break the ice with people you might not know very well, and show sincere warmth. You plant the seeds of friendship; you are bound to receive a rich harvest of great friends. At a party or a gathering have the courage to walk over to someone you would like to get to know better an introduce yourself. Every human being has a deep need for affection, and most people will be delighted you took the initiative. And if they do not respond to you, so what? Rather than viewing it as rejection, see it as their loss and politely move on to the next person who can benefit from all you have to offer.

Saturday, June 4, 2011

Norway, Finland, Amsterdam, Denmark

Scandinavia well what can I say..

It is one of the most unique untouched parts of the planet I have ever seen. It is magical, mystical and made me feel so so close to Mother Nature and the universe. If you have read my earlier blog on My Journey from Sprit it explains how I came to travel this country. It was 1998, I was 28 years of age, I travelled from London to Amsterdam to Germany to Norway up the top to ........ across to Finland into Santa Clause Land back down to.... across on the ferry.... to Estonia back to ... and then I flew back to London.

The people and friends I meet along the way will always be with me. As most of you may know I ALWAYS have my video camera or camera glued to my eye, so on this trip, I happened to capture all on DVD.

WOW! I cannot wait to show Kobi my trip. She understands that her mummy has been to Santa Clause land and I have seen Santa and the reindeers who live at ......... and now at her age of 4 she is wanting me to take her to Santa Clause Land now. I’ve told her ‘One day sweetie, I’ll take you’...
I have a ..... calendar on my wall at home and I’ve shown Kobi the months and we point out December and tell her this is when Santa comes down under to visit so we have to wait all the months in-between until he comes.

The trip went something like this: On the bus at 6am travel the countryside stop around 12pm for lunch – Trev the cook would get his set up from under the bus and set it up for lunch, put it away, on the bus until we got to the next town, get out and look around for a couple of hours, back on the bus 3pm, travel to our destination to stay the night. Unpack, set up tents or like myself and others who preferred to stay in cabins (it’s very cold up there) make ourselves at home. Trev set up the cook’s tent and always made the BEST food ever for us all! When we were finished we were in teams of 3 or 4 and helped to wash up and ‘Air Dry’ all the plates.

Play a few games, have a drink and in for the night. Start all over the next day.




I hope one day Kobi gets to travel the world like I did. If it wasn’t for my dad telling me stories most of my younger life about the travels he did when he lived in Poland, I would not have known what laid out there in the big wide world.

Tuesday, May 31, 2011

The Essence of Happiness

Now sometimes people confuse happiness with pleasure... from my point of view, the highest happiness is when one reaches the stage of Liberation, at which there is no more suffering. That’s genuine, lasting happiness. True happiness relates more to the mind and heart. Happiness that depends mainly on physical pleasure is unstable; one day it’s there, the next day it may not be.

One interesting thing about GREED is that although the underlying motive is to seek satisfaction, the irony is that even after obtaining the object of your desire, you are still not satisfied.. The true antidote of greed is contentment. If you have a strong sense of contentment, it doesn’t matter whether you obtain the object or note; either way, you are still content.

Whether our action is wholesome or unwholesome depends on whether that action or deed arises from a disciplined or undisciplined state of mind. It is felt that a disciplined mind leads to happiness and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering, and in fact it is said that bringing about discipline within one’s mind is the essence of the Buddha’s teaching.

(The Essence of Happiness – Dali Lama – From “A Guidebook for Living)

Monday, May 30, 2011

GET GOOD AT ASKING

"He who asks may be a fool for five minutes. He who doesn’t is a fool for a lifetime,” goes the wise Chinese’s proverb. It makes me think I an ad I read in the classifieds recently that said, “To the beautiful woman in the brown suede coat at the chemist at xyz on Saturday, November 28 @ 4pm. You bumped into me in front of the magazine section. I would love to meet and chat”. The man who placed this ad then left his phone number. Destiny had given him an opportunity – possibly to meet the woman of this dreams – and he had squandered it. And now, after regretting the fact that he “did not ask” he has had to resort to placing an ad in the newspaper in the desperate hop of finding this woman.

The more you ask, the more you get, but it takes practice to get good at it. Success is a numbers game. As the Buddhist sages observed, “Every arrow that hits the bull’s eye is the result of one hundred misses”. Over the coming weeks, flex your “asking muscles” by asking for a better table at your favourite restaurant, for a free second scoop at your local ice-cream shop, or for a complimentary upgrade on your next airline flight. You might be surprised at the abundance that will flow into your life when you just ask sincerely for the things you want.

Remember, the person who asks for what he wants at least has a chance of getting what he wants. The person who does not ask has no chance. “It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it”.

By Robin Sharma (Who Will Cry When You die?)

Sunday, May 29, 2011

MASTER YOUR TIME

MASTER YOUR TIME
I have always found it ironic that so many people say they would do anything for a little more time every day, and yet they squander the time they already have. Time is life's great leveller; we all have the same allotment of 24 hours in a day. What separates the people who created great lives form the also- rans is how they use these hours.

Most of us live as if we have an infinite amount of time to do all the things we know we must do to live a full and rewarding life. And so we procrastinate and put the achievement of our dreams on hold while we tend to those daily emergencies that fill up our days. This is a certain recipe for life regret. As novelist Paul Bowles once wrote:

.......because we don't know (when we will die), we get to think of life as an inexhaustive well. Yet everything happens only a certain number of times, and a very small number, really. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that's so deeply a part of your being that you can't even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more. Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you remember a certain afternoon of your childhood, some afternoon that's so deeply a part of your being that you can't even conceive of your life without it? Perhaps four or five times more? Perhaps not even that. How many more times will you watch the full moon rise? Perhaps twenty. And yet it all seems limitless.

Commit yourself to managing your time more effectively. Develop a keen sense of awareness about how important your time really is. Don’t let people waste this most precious of commodities, and invest it only in those activities that truly count.

Saturday, May 28, 2011

GET BEHIND PEOPLES EYEBALLS


One of the deepest of all the human hungers is the need to be understood, cherished, and honoured. Yet in the fast paced days we live in, too many people believe that listening involves nothing more than waiting for the other person to stop talking. And to make matters worse, while that person is speaking, we are all too often using that time to formulate our own response, rather than empathizing with the point being made.

Taking the time to truly understand another’s point of view shows that you value what he has to say and care about him as a person. When you start "getting behind the eyes balls; of the person how is speaking and try to see the world form his perspective, you will connect with him deeply and build high trust relationships that last.

We have two ears a done mouth for a reason: to listen twice as much as we speak. And having the courtesy to be a better listener has another advantage: Since you are not doing all the talking, you are doing all the learning, gaining access to information you would have missed had you been engaged in the usual monologue. Here are a few practical tips to become better at the art of listening:

1. If you are speaking and the person you are having a conversation with has not said something within the past 60 seconds, there is a good chance you have lost her and it’s time to stop talking so much.

2. Resist the temptation to interrupt. Catch yourself just before you do so and pay more attention to the content of what the other person is saying to you.

3. After the other person makes her points, rather than immediately responding with your opinion, reflect on what you have just heard. Saying something such as, Just to make sure I understand you, are you saying.....?" And doing so with complete sincerity will bring you much closer to the people you interact with every day of your life.

(Who will cry when you die - Robin Sharma)

Thursday, May 26, 2011

The Poem I wrote when Dad Died

FARWELL DAD

(My Dad – Jan Jantzen)

My father was a Master Chef and worked into his prime
He worked hard everyday and night and he was always on time
He walked to work in weather both foul and both fair
He worked long into his fulfilled life until he had white hair

My dad would stand all day and night in front of a hot flaming stove
With pots and pans and food galore,
Thrown around a creation was wove

Bellows could be heard by dad from the kitchen far and near
“Get out of my bloody kitchen – Can’t you see I’m in top gear”?
Flames from the stove produced beads of sweat
But not once did he ever voice any regrets

Into his pan he would create his famous master piece
Then add a bit of this and that which went down like a treat
Then on the plate he would then create this unbelievable dish
This man-made creation right from his hand
Revealed creations so so lavish

He made meals for the public to line up to eat
And every night for us, this was a treat
He also made meals for his family – 3 meal courses
He made meals for all our childhood friends
He made meals that could feed 100 horses

My father raised 2 kids
He shaped them too as the food he did
He moulded them to be generous and kind
Tempered by his love and by his design

He instilled in them a sense of right and wrong
He prepared them for the life ahead and to be strong
He gave to each of them whatever it was that he had
And made them proud that he was their dad

My father worked until the night he fell asleep
And then silence engulfed our little Yamba town - we all wept
The banging and crashing we all got to know so well
Had stopped inside his kitchen
But since I am my father’s daughter, time will only tell!

Give 'em a hug, a great big kiss.
Because one day, he will be greatly missed.

Now I will have to look up at the stars and
say, "I love you, Daddy, more and more each day
For if you keep these moments, you will never be apart
And my daddy will live forever locked safe within my heart.


By Jessica Jantzen

Favourite Websites

Your Wish Is Granted DVDs
http://www.yourwishisgranted.com.au

Twig the Fairy
http://www.twigthefairy.com/
http://www.facebook.com/#!/twigthefairy

Zinnia the Fairy
www.facebook.com/zinniathefairy

Dr. Wayne. W. Dyer
http://www.drwaynedyer.com
http://www.facebook.com/#!/drwaynedyer

Louise L. Hay
http://www.louisehay.com
http://www.facebook.com/#!/louiselhay

The Secret
http://www.thesecret.tv/

Doreen Virtue
http://www.angeltherapy.com/

Allison Dubois
http://www.allisondubois.com/


The Tao Bums
http://www.thetaobums.com/

Gold Coast City Parks and EVERY ACTIVITY
http://www.gcparks.com.au/social-gatherings.aspx

Books I Love to Read

Excuses Begone! Dr. Wayne. W.Dyer

Change Your Thought Change Your Life - Dr. Wayne. W.Dyer

Inspiration - Dr. Wayne. W.Dyer

10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace - Dr. Wayne. W.Dyer

Chicken Soup for the Soul - Jack Canfield & Mark V Hansen

Who will Cry when you Die - Robin Sharma

The Three Keys to Self-Empowerment - Stuart Wilde

The Secret - Rhonda Byrne

The Power of I AM - Johna Maxwell Taylor

You Can Heal Your Life - Louise L. Hay

The Chemical Maze Shopping Companion - Bill Statham

The Essence of Happiness - The Dalai Lama & Howard C Cutler

Ask your Guides Connecting to Your Divine Support System - Sonia Choquette

How to DevelopYour Sixth Sense - David Lawson

Calm Kids - Massage Stories for Children by Tricia Riordan